do you feel good though?

"How are you?" "I'm good"... That exchange happens all the time. I find it an interesting way of connecting as we really emphasize "being good" in our culture. Especially over the last year, there has been this surge in the collective push to "be good". Which I am not opposed to, but I think it is worth examining. This is a big topic, so I'll start with the body... FEELING GOOD: Do you actually know how to feel good? Like really feel good? Not numb, or fine, or just basic. I also don't mean doing the things that make you feel good. I mean, do you know how to find, and anchor into, the spaces inside of yourself that already feel good. Right now. Literally, right now... Can you find something that feels good? In your body. If you can find one, can you find two? And if you can't find one thing that feels good, can you at least find something that doesn't feel bad? ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ When I first starting doing this practice of actively connecting to what feels good, it paradoxically felt very uncomfortable. I had to go through layers of awkwardness. I found a program was running that if I feel good, I'm bad. And if I feel bad, I'm good. AMY! how dare you send this email about feeling good in the middle of a global pandemic, when so many people are suffering?!?!??! Feeling good is not the absence of pain, nor is it the absence of compassion. Feeling good is a unique embodied sensational experience. I invite you to explore your own version of it. In my experience, feeling good is inclusive of many different emotions and sensations. Like a big cry can feel really good. So can an orgasm. So can a quiet house with a cup of tea. So can a really intense work out. What I want to invoke here is you reclaiming the feel good as yours to experience... and not

something that comes from outside: ie a behavior, a person, or an object. (When I give a homeless person money I feel good (behavior), when my husband says I'm beautiful I feel good (person), when I get new jeans I feel good (object)). Those are not bad ways to feel good, but there is power in knowing your feel good as your own. These are all layers we get to untangle within ourselves. Because for a lot of us, especially those who are sensitive, we have learned that if we feel bad with others, we are good. Remind me again? How is my misery helping other people? The system is rigged for you to focus on what feels bad and then get the quick fix for it. Now I'm not saying we should ignore the things that are in pain or are not ok. We definitely need to face those. What I am saying is that we often have to strengthen the muscle that lets us actually connect to what feels good. Facing the fuckery of this world without a strong feel good in your own body is a sure way to collapse. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ I doubt you need more shit to do. Especially as we move towards the end of the year and holidays, but if you do want it: here's something. Look around the space you are in, find three things that feel good to look at. (My holiday lights, the rainbows from my prism, the tree across the street) Really let your eyes stop and soften and take in those three things. Then close your eyes, and find three things that actually feel good in your body (my hands on the keyboard, the feeling of no bra, a soft belly). Let your attention really stay with those things for a couple of breaths. If you want to expand that practice, part of my Closure course focuses specifically on this. When you complete Closure, you will have taken the time to anchor a clear intention for 2021 that is specifically around this rogue and rebellious practice of feeling good. Let me know if you want to book an individual session or you have questions about any of my courses: Closure, Sensitivity is a Superpower, Stay at Home with the Chakras, Yoga 101. Hope you are healthy and can do the feel good thing often. Here's a fun feel good song. Thank you for reading. I value your attention. Amy